It’s never your circumstances or fate. It’s always you.

We are all self-made men and women, but only the successful take credit for it — the idea of personal responsibility. If you only practised this one concept, within two to three years the changes in your life would be so significant, your friends and family would have difficulty remembering the ‘old you’.

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In the seminar, the speaker asked, ‘what percentage of shared responsibility do you have in making a relationship work?’

“fifty/fifty!” I blurted out. Both people must be willing to share the responsibility evenly, or someone else is getting ripped off.

“fifty-one/forty-nine,” yelled someone else in the back row, arguing that you’d be willing to do more than the other person. Aren’t relationships built on self-sacrifice and generosity?

“Eighty/ twenty,” yelled another.

The instructor turned to the easel and wrote 100/0 on the paper in big black letters “you have to be willing to give your 100% with 0 expectation of receiving anything in return,” he said. Only when you’re willing to take 100 per cent responsibility for making a relationship work will it work. Otherwise, a relationship left to chances will always be vulnerable to disaster.”

Whoa. This wasn’t what I was expecting! But I quickly understood the concept could transform every area of my life. If I took 100 per cent of responsibility for everything that happened to me, I held power. Everything was up to me. I was responsible for everything I did, I didn’t do, or how I responded to what was done to me.

I know you think you take responsibility for your life. I have yet to ask anyone who doesn’t say, “of course, I take responsibility for my life.” But then you look at how people operate in the world. There is a lot of finger-pointing, blaming and expecting someone else or the government to solve your problems in life. Suppose you’ve ever blamed traffic for being late or decided that you’re in a bad mood because of something your kid, your spouse, or your coworker did, that you’re not taking 100% personal responsibility. You arrived late because the printer was busy. Maybe you shouldn’t have waited until the last minute? Did a co-worker mess up the presentation? Perhaps you should have double-checked the presentation before submitting it? Not getting along with your unreasonable teen, there are hundreds of books on getting along with teenagers.

You alone are responsible for what you do, don’t do, or how you respond to what’s done to you.


If you learn to take full accountability for whatever happens to you from today. It’ll be challenging in the beginning if you persist the urge to point the finger and blaming others for something that’s done to you; you’ll revolutionise yourself within 18–24 months. It’s not luck, circumstances or the right situation that matters as much as willingly taking full responsibility for your life.

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This article is inspired from the book “THE COMPOUND EFFECT.”

Categories: Financial Philosphies

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